Who the F*ck Are You?

Rower, Sitter, Driller

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About the book

Discover Who You Are—and Take Control of Your Life

Are you tired of just existing, watching life pass you by? “Who the F*ck Are You?” by internationally recognized experts in human behavior Dhyan Vimal and Paul Fayad is the no-nonsense guide to understanding why you do what you do—and how to change what’s not working.

In this ground-breaking book, Vimal and Fayad dissect the age-old question of “Who am I?” using a scientific and philosophical approach to help you uncover your true self. By examining how genetic heritage, environment, and social interactions shape human behavior, they present a simple framework for self-discovery.

A Revolutionary Framework for Self-Understanding

Who are you? Are you a:

  • Rower: Someone who pushes forward through life, creating positive outcomes.
  • Sitter: An observer, waiting for life to happen, jumping in only when there’s something to gain.
  • Driller: A disruptor who stirs chaos for personal gain.

“Who the F*ck Are You?” helps you pinpoint where you—and the people around you—fit in this framework, giving you the tools to:

  • Set healthy boundaries with the Drillers in your life.
  • Appreciate and support the Rowers who help you move forward.
  • Encourage the Sitters to start rowing alongside you.

Why read this book?

This is not just a book about personal growth. It’s a practical guide packed with actionable insights into human behavior, driven by scientific research and real-world examples. Whether you’re struggling with relationships, career, or self-doubt, this book gives you the tools to stop asking “Who am I?” and start living intentionally.

About the authors

Dhyan Vimal has spent over 30 years studying human consciousness, sharing his teachings with audiences worldwide. His groundbreaking work on life, living, and meditation has inspired thousands to celebrate every aspect of life.

Paul Fayad, co-founder of Positive Leader, is a leading expert in personalities and behaviors, with decades of experience helping individuals and organizations understand their inherent nature. He has lectured globally on leadership, personalities, and how behavior shapes relationships, contributing to a deeper understanding of human potential.

Together, Dhyan Vimal and Paul Fayad bring decades of experience in behavioral science and leadership development. Their work explores the depths of human consciousness, personality, and interpersonal dynamics, providing practical insights into how we live and interact.

Key Takeaways from "Who the F*ck Are You?"

The Rower, Driller, and Sitter℠ framework

Learn to identify yourself and others as Rowers (progressive and proactive), Drillers (disruptive and self-serving), or Sitters (passive observers).

Understand your behavior

Discover the underlying reasons for why you act the way you do in various situations and relationships.

Set healthy boundaries

Gain strategies to distance yourself from the negative influence of Drillers while fostering stronger connections with Rowers.

Real-world applications

Benefit from practical advice and examples that help you integrate these concepts into your daily life for lasting change.

FAQs

The book encourages readers to better understand themselves by examining their behaviors, mindsets, and the influences that shape them. It introduces a simple framework that categorizes people into three groups—Rowers, Drillers, and Sitters—helping readers take control of their lives, set boundaries, and foster personal growth.

Anyone seeking to better understand their behavior, improve their personal and professional relationships, and take actionable steps toward personal growth will benefit from this book. It’s especially relevant for those feeling stuck or uncertain about their direction in life.

  • Rowers are people who consistently move forward, creating positive outcomes and progress.
  • Drillers disrupt and create chaos for their own benefit, often at the expense of others.
  • Sitters tend to be passive observers, avoiding action unless it benefits them directly.

The book helps you identify which of these roles you—and those around you—fit into and how to create better outcomes in your life by understanding these dynamics.

It’s a combination of both. While it dives into the philosophical question of “Who am I?” by exploring behavioral science and psychology, it also provides practical advice and actionable steps to help readers apply these insights to their daily lives.

“Who the F*ck Are You?” takes a unique approach by blending human behavior, neuroscience, and a no-nonsense framework that’s easy to understand and implement. The focus is not only on self-awareness but also on how to manage the people in your life who might hinder your progress.

Absolutely. One of the key takeaways of the book is how to set boundaries with disruptive personalities (Drillers) and how to foster better relationships with supportive individuals (Rowers). The insights can be applied to personal, family, and professional relationships.